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<channel><title><![CDATA[Kwame Opoku Counselling - Blogs]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs]]></link><description><![CDATA[Blogs]]></description><pubDate>Sat, 22 Nov 2025 21:05:53 +0000</pubDate><generator>Weebly</generator><item><title><![CDATA[Black secondary trauma - appearance on BBC Radio London: Judi Love]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/black-secondary-trauma-appearance-on-bbc-radio-london-judi-love]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/black-secondary-trauma-appearance-on-bbc-radio-london-judi-love#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Sat, 14 Nov 2020 14:24:11 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/black-secondary-trauma-appearance-on-bbc-radio-london-judi-love</guid><description><![CDATA[I was asked to appear on Judi Love's radio show to discuss the black secondary trauma. Take a listen -&nbsp;https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p08tbhws [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph">I was asked to appear on Judi Love's radio show to discuss the black secondary trauma. Take a listen -&nbsp;<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)">https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p08tbhws</span></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[How racism can impact the psychology of black people]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/how-racism-can-impact-the-psychology-of-black-people]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/how-racism-can-impact-the-psychology-of-black-people#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2020 21:16:10 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/how-racism-can-impact-the-psychology-of-black-people</guid><description><![CDATA[This is an article I wrote for a magazine based in Belgium late 2019/early 2020. You should be able to translate it into English, however I've attached an English version.https://www.bamko.org/analyses-2019:https://6274c06d-5149-4618-88b2-ac2fdc6ef62d.filesusr.com/ugd/3d95e3_4328d64adc88442992c2d6fe4be9c172.pdf    how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdfFile Size:  189 kbFile Type:   pdfDownload File    [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph">This is an article I wrote for a magazine based in Belgium late 2019/early 2020. You should be able to translate it into English, however I've attached an English version.<br /><br /><a href="https://www.bamko.org/analyses-2019">https://www.bamko.org/analyses-2019</a>:<br /><a href="https://6274c06d-5149-4618-88b2-ac2fdc6ef62d.filesusr.com/ugd/3d95e3_4328d64adc88442992c2d6fe4be9c172.pdf">https://6274c06d-5149-4618-88b2-ac2fdc6ef62d.filesusr.com/ugd/3d95e3_4328d64adc88442992c2d6fe4be9c172.pdf</a></div>  <div><div style="margin: 10px 0 0 -10px"> <a title="Download file: how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdf" href="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdf"><img src="//www.weebly.com/weebly/images/file_icons/pdf.png" width="36" height="36" style="float: left; position: relative; left: 0px; top: 0px; margin: 0 15px 15px 0; border: 0;" /></a><div style="float: left; text-align: left; position: relative;"><table style="font-size: 12px; font-family: tahoma; line-height: .9;"><tr><td colspan="2"><b> how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdf</b></td></tr><tr style="display: none;"><td>File Size:  </td><td>189 kb</td></tr><tr style="display: none;"><td>File Type:  </td><td> pdf</td></tr></table><a title="Download file: how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdf" href="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/how_and_why_racism_can_impact_on_black_people_v3.0.pdf" style="font-weight: bold;">Download File</a></div> </div>  <hr style="clear: both; width: 100%; visibility: hidden"></hr></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Time to talk podcast with Alex Reads - Dec 2019]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/time-to-talk-podcast-with-alex-reads]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/time-to-talk-podcast-with-alex-reads#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2020 20:48:34 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/time-to-talk-podcast-with-alex-reads</guid><description><![CDATA[Episode InfoWhat are the barriers stopping Black people, men in particular, going to therapy? Why are there less men of colour therapists?&nbsp;&#8203;https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/what-matters-with-alex-reads/e/65742612?autoplay=true [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><strong>Episode Info</strong><br />What are the barriers stopping Black people, men in particular, going to therapy? Why are there less men of colour therapists?&nbsp;<br /><br />&#8203;<a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/what-matters-with-alex-reads/e/65742612?autoplay=true">https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/what-matters-with-alex-reads/e/65742612?autoplay=true</a></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[African and African Caribbean UK immigration and childhood trauma]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/african-and-african-caribbean-uk-immigration-and-childhood-trauma]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/african-and-african-caribbean-uk-immigration-and-childhood-trauma#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2020 09:00:43 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/african-and-african-caribbean-uk-immigration-and-childhood-trauma</guid><description><![CDATA[&#8203;&#8203;Th&#8203;is&#8203; information sheet gives an overview of the impact of immigration from African and the Caribbean,&nbsp;and the adverse effects of broken relationships and sometimes traumatic reunions on children.&nbsp;&#8203;It was a collaborative effort between myself and Dr Elaine Arnold of the charity,&nbsp;Supporting Relationships and Families.It&#8203;'&#8203;s not intended to&#8203; be&#8203; an academic piece, rather something that touches on the experiences of so many bla [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph">&#8203;&#8203;Th&#8203;is&#8203; information sheet gives an overview of the impact of immigration <span style="color:rgb(34, 34, 34)">from African and the Caribbean,&nbsp;</span>and the <span style="color:rgb(34, 34, 34)">adverse effects of broken relationships and sometimes traumatic reunions on children.&nbsp;</span><br /><br />&#8203;It was a collaborative effort between myself and Dr Elaine Arnold of the charity,&nbsp;<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><a href="http://www.serefo.org.uk/" target="_blank">Supporting Relationships and Families</a>.</span><br /><br />It&#8203;'&#8203;s not intended to&#8203; be&#8203; an academic piece, rather something that touches on the experiences of so many black and families I know, including my own. Coming into a hostile&nbsp;environment is spoken of particularly in light of recent&nbsp;events however what I&#8203; observed a few years ago was that&nbsp;nearly &#8203;not &#8203;enough attention was the relational impact of the many family separations that occurred as a result of immigration to the UK. The intention of the info&#8203; sheet&#8203; is to provide some insight and understanding&#8203; to those impacted, directly and indirectly by these experiences.&#8203;<br /><br />Please feel&nbsp;free to contact me if you have any questions.<br /></div>  <div><div style="margin: 10px 0 0 -10px"> <a title="Download file: aacimmigrationandchildhoodtrauma.pdf" href="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/aacimmigrationandchildhoodtrauma.pdf"><img src="//www.weebly.com/weebly/images/file_icons/pdf.png" width="36" height="36" style="float: left; position: relative; left: 0px; top: 0px; margin: 0 15px 15px 0; border: 0;" /></a><div style="float: left; text-align: left; position: relative;"><table style="font-size: 12px; font-family: tahoma; line-height: .9;"><tr><td colspan="2"><b> aacimmigrationandchildhoodtrauma.pdf</b></td></tr><tr style="display: none;"><td>File Size:  </td><td>4032 kb</td></tr><tr style="display: none;"><td>File Type:  </td><td> pdf</td></tr></table><a title="Download file: aacimmigrationandchildhoodtrauma.pdf" href="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/aacimmigrationandchildhoodtrauma.pdf" style="font-weight: bold;">Download File</a></div> </div>  <hr style="clear: both; width: 100%; visibility: hidden"></hr></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reflecting on Desire & Relationships with Esther Perel]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/reflecting-on-desire-relationships-with-esther-perel]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/reflecting-on-desire-relationships-with-esther-perel#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 11 Dec 2018 17:13:23 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Relationships]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Sex]]></category><category><![CDATA[Therapy]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/reflecting-on-desire-relationships-with-esther-perel</guid><description><![CDATA[A great conversation with psychotherapist&nbsp;Esther Perel,&nbsp;reflecting on a number of topics such as attitude to relationships, desire, love and&nbsp;dating.This is for everyone regardless of relationship status. Be sure to check out her YouTube page for tips and advice in her bite size videos.        [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph">A great conversation with psychotherapist&nbsp;<a href="https://www.estherperel.com" target="_blank"><strong>Esther Perel</strong></a><strong>,&nbsp;</strong>reflecting on a number of topics such as attitude to relationships, desire, love and&nbsp;dating.<br /><br />This is for everyone regardless of relationship status. Be sure to check out her <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/perelesther" target="_blank">YouTube page </a>for tips and advice in her bite size videos.<br /></div>  <div class="wsite-youtube" style="margin-bottom:10px;margin-top:10px;"><div class="wsite-youtube-wrapper wsite-youtube-size-auto wsite-youtube-align-center"> <div class="wsite-youtube-container">  <iframe src="//www.youtube.com/embed/VLhMOr0AH8I?wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> </div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Emotional Eating]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/emotional-eating]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/emotional-eating#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Tue, 12 Jun 2018 16:22:26 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/emotional-eating</guid><description><![CDATA[ We live in age of perpetual dieting and tons of TV shows looking at weight loss and body image. In popular culture programmes related to food and weight are easy content. However on a serious level eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder are devastating many people&rsquo;s lives:Eating disorders have the highest mortality rates among psychiatric disorders[i].Anorexia Nervosa has the highest mortality rate of any psychiatric disorder in adolescence.Of those surviving [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<span class='imgPusher' style='float:left;height:291px'></span><span style='display: table;width:403px;position:relative;float:left;max-width:100%;;clear:left;margin-top:20px;*margin-top:40px'><a><img src="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/published/1414-image.jpg?1712676465" style="margin-top: 5px; margin-bottom: 10px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 10px; border-width:1px;padding:3px; max-width:100%" alt="Picture" class="galleryImageBorder wsite-image" /></a><span style="display: table-caption; caption-side: bottom; font-size: 90%; margin-top: -10px; margin-bottom: 10px; text-align: center;" class="wsite-caption"></span></span> <div class="paragraph" style="text-align:justify;display:block;"><font color="#000000" size="4">We live in age of perpetual dieting and tons of TV shows looking at weight loss and body image. In popular culture programmes related to food and weight are easy content. However on a serious level </font><a href="https://eating-disorders.org.uk/information/facts-about-eating-disorders/"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">eating disorders</font></u></a><font color="#000000" size="4"> such as </font><a href="https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/anorexia/"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">anorexia</font></u></a><font color="#000000" size="4">, </font><a href="https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/bulimia/"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">bulimia</font></u></a><font color="#000000" size="4"> and </font><a href="https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/binge-eating/"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">binge eating disorder</font></u></a><font size="4"><font color="#000000"> are devastating many people&rsquo;s lives:</font></font><br /><br /><ul><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Eating disorders have the highest mortality rates among psychiatric disorders</font><a href="file://city-of-london.police.uk/EDRM_IaaS/USERDOCUMENTS/87863/My%20Documents/Kwame/Counselling/Counselling/PR/emotionaleatingjan2018.docx#_edn1"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">[i]</font></u></a><font size="4">.</font></li><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Anorexia Nervosa has the highest mortality rate of any psychiatric disorder in adolescence.</font></li><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Of those surviving, 50% recover, whereas 30% improve and 20% remain chronically ill.</font></li></ul><font size="4">&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />The causes of eating disorders are wide-ranging, however stress and trauma are thought to play significant roles therefore the treatment may involve work with a number of professionals.<br />&nbsp;<br />On an everyday level, there are many people who struggle with their weight and have an unhealthy relationship with food which is one of the biggest challenges people can face because food is something everybody requires. Therefore even if you have a poor relationship with food it&rsquo;s still something that can&rsquo;t abstained from.&nbsp;</font><br /><br /><font size="4">The fact that food is required means that whatever happens the person has to eat whatever the quality of its nutritional values. Moreover people battling with their weight and doing countless diets are invariably failing because they are trying to modify their behaviour without addressing the emotional components as most of the time people aren&rsquo;t eating just to satisfy physical hunger.<br />&nbsp;<br />When people eat to relieve their emotional stress / discomfort rational decision making often goes out of the window thus any attempts to address this issue needs to be taken into account to facilitate change at a deeper level including identifying emotional triggers.<br />&nbsp;<br />To start, you have to become clear about whether you are an </font><a href="https://www.helpguide.org/articles/diets/emotional-eating.htm"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">emotional eater</font></u></a><font size="4">. It includes some of these questions:<br />&nbsp;</font><ul><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Do you eat to feel better (to calm and soothe yourself when you&rsquo;re sad, mad, bored, anxious, etc.)?</font></li><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Do you regularly eat until you&rsquo;ve stuffed yourself?</font></li><li style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0)"><font size="4">Do you feel powerless or out of control around food?</font></li></ul><font size="4">&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />The main </font><a href="https://eating-disorders.org.uk/information/why-people-get-eating-disorders/"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">causes for eating disorders</font></u></a><font size="4"> include learnt behaviour within the family or as a coping mechanism as a result of trauma. To build a healthy relationship with food where all the various strategies can be properly used a lot of work needs to be done on the </font><a href="http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellor-articles/what-is-emotional-dysregulation"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="4">emotional dysregulation</font></u></a><span><font size="4"> which drive the emotional eating. </font></span><br /><br /><a href="file://city-of-london.police.uk/EDRM_IaaS/USERDOCUMENTS/87863/My%20Documents/Kwame/Counselling/Counselling/PR/emotionaleatingjan2018.docx#_ednref1"><span><span><u><font color="#0000ff">[i]</font></u></span></span></a> <a href="http://www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/about/statistics"><u><font color="#0000ff" size="2">http://www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/about/statistics</font></u></a></div> <hr style="width:100%;clear:both;visibility:hidden;"></hr>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[No Pain Free Option]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/no-pain-free-option]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/no-pain-free-option#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jan 2018 17:39:06 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[Healing]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Therapy]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/no-pain-free-option</guid><description><![CDATA[ 				 				  The New Year is a natural and popular time for renewed focus on personal development and desired life changes. Often intentions fail to materialise for a combination of reasons including lack of concrete plans and sustain application.When it comes to counselling and psychotherapy, the desire for change, the desire to be happier, to be free from emotional pain requires an accompanying understanding and mind set of tolerance to emotional pain and discomfort. Whilst current life difficu [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden;"></div> 				<div id='134204364537070918-gallery' class='imageGallery' style='line-height: 0px; padding: 0; margin: 0'><div id='134204364537070918-imageContainer0' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='134204364537070918-insideImageContainer0' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/newyearfreshstart_orig.jpg' rel='lightbox[gallery134204364537070918]'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/newyearfreshstart.jpg' class='galleryImage' _width='400' _height='274' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:109.49%;top:0%;left:-4.74%' /></a></div></div></div></div><div id='134204364537070918-imageContainer1' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='134204364537070918-insideImageContainer1' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/no-pain-free-options-o_orig.png' rel='lightbox[gallery134204364537070918]'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/no-pain-free-options-o.png' class='galleryImage' _width='329' _height='349' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:100%;top:-20.72%;left:0%' /></a></div></div></div></div><div id='134204364537070918-imageContainer2' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='134204364537070918-insideImageContainer2' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/painchangespeople_orig.png' rel='lightbox[gallery134204364537070918]'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/painchangespeople.png' class='galleryImage' _width='190' _height='266' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:100%;top:-43.33%;left:0%' /></a></div></div></div></div><span style='display: block; clear: both; height: 0px; overflow: hidden;'></span></div> 				<div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden;"></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><font size="3"><font size="3">The New Year is a natural and popular time for renewed focus on personal development and desired life changes. Often intentions fail to materialise for a combination of reasons including lack of concrete plans and sustain application.<br /><br />When it comes to counselling and psychotherapy, the desire for change, the desire to be happier, to be free from emotional pain requires an accompanying understanding and mind set of tolerance to emotional pain and discomfort. Whilst current life difficulties invariably result in distress such as depression and excessive anxiety, dealing with the causes of the distress also brings contact with denied and unprocessed feelings and emotions. This is also very difficult and can seeming overwhelming to even come near it which can be part of the reason for distress in the first place as coping mechanisms used to help people deal with the emotional pain unwittingly causes the intensity of the feelings or lack of feelings to build over time to the point that it becomes unsustainable.<br /><br />The healing aspect of therapy where experiences need to be processed means a different type of emotional pain and discomfort is encountered. With that it highlights the impasse people often get stuck between where the symptoms such as depression and OCD are down to the difficulty in dealing with the root causes of their distress such as death of a loved one or childhood trauma.&nbsp; Faced with such a situation there is an understandable desire to be relieved from the pain and ironically therapy which is a space of healing can at first glance be seen as a space that doesn&rsquo;t evoke refuge because it doesn&rsquo;t represent a pain free option. Doing the work of dealing with a painful past means eventual contact with the pain carried from unprocessed feelings. This is one thing that needs to be highlighted more in that the work of healing as often it get worse in the short term before it gets better in the long term due to the process of facing up the past in all its persuasions including in no particular order - loss, shame, guilt, anger, sadness, mourning, acceptance.<br /><br />In the end it comes down to reaching a tipping point of being in a place to deal with the pain of the unknown future over the known pain of the past and present, either way there&rsquo;s no pain free option when it comes making changes in your life and dealing with the emotional injuries and its legacy.</font></font></font><br /></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Regulating emotions]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/regulating-emotions]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/regulating-emotions#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 06 Sep 2017 17:01:32 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[Stress]]></category><category><![CDATA[Therapy]]></category><category><![CDATA[Wellbeing]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/regulating-emotions</guid><description><![CDATA[For emotional wellbeing and improved health there is a need to learn how to regulate our emotions, particularly if it&rsquo;s something that hasn&rsquo;t been intuitively learned.Often at the heart of emotional difficulties is the difficulty caused by people becoming overwhelmed by their emotions for one reason or the other. Therapy helps with the integration of unprocessed feelings, however in the short term there is a benefit to learning proactive coping techniques to help regain control and b [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font color="#000000" size="3">For emotional wellbeing and improved health there is a need to learn how to regulate our emotions, particularly if it&rsquo;s something that hasn&rsquo;t been intuitively learned.</font><br /><font color="#000000" size="3"><br />Often at the heart of emotional difficulties is the difficulty caused by people becoming overwhelmed by their emotions for one reason or the other. Therapy helps with the integration of unprocessed feelings, however in the short term there is a benefit to learning proactive coping techniques to help regain control and build self-confidence.</font><br /><font color="#000000" size="3"><br />Here are a few resources available through the NHS:</font><br /><a href="http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/pages/ways-relieve-stress.aspx"><font color="#0000ff" size="3">http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/pages/ways-relieve-stress.aspx</font></a><br /><span><a href="http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/mindfulness.aspx#different"><font color="#0000ff" size="4">http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/mindfulness.aspx#different</font></a></span><br /></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Doing therapy can help you thrive in all areas of your life]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/doing-therapy-can-help-you-thrive-in-all-areas-of-your-life]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/doing-therapy-can-help-you-thrive-in-all-areas-of-your-life#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2017 17:31:33 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[Mental Health]]></category><category><![CDATA[Self development]]></category><category><![CDATA[Therapy]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/doing-therapy-can-help-you-thrive-in-all-areas-of-your-life</guid><description><![CDATA[ 				 				  As a therapist I&rsquo;m glad that our emotional and mental wellbeing is getting more and more attention. Working with a therapist to address issues being experienced allows a fuller life to be lived.&nbsp;How counselling can help?Through creating a safe and trusting working relationship where anything and everything can be talked about, without judgement, the problems that have arisen in life can be worked through.Therapy can be used to deal with the impact of emotional and mental d [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden;"></div> 				<div id='513046808546683754-gallery' class='imageGallery' style='line-height: 0px; padding: 0; margin: 0'><div id='513046808546683754-imageContainer0' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='513046808546683754-insideImageContainer0' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/mental-health-conditions_1_orig.jpg' rel='lightbox[gallery513046808546683754]' onclick='if (!window.lightboxLoaded) return false'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/mental-health-conditions_1.jpg' class='galleryImage' _width='400' _height='280' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:107.14%;top:0%;left:-3.57%' /></a></div></div></div></div><div id='513046808546683754-imageContainer1' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='513046808546683754-insideImageContainer1' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/imagescan81i7v_orig.jpg' rel='lightbox[gallery513046808546683754]' onclick='if (!window.lightboxLoaded) return false'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/imagescan81i7v.jpg' class='galleryImage' _width='275' _height='183' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:112.7%;top:0%;left:-6.35%' /></a></div></div></div></div><div id='513046808546683754-imageContainer2' style='float:left;width:33.28%;margin:0;'><div id='513046808546683754-insideImageContainer2' style='position:relative;margin:5px;'><div class='galleryImageHolder' style='position:relative; width:100%; padding:0 0 75%;overflow:hidden;'><div class='galleryInnerImageHolder'><a href='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/untitled1_orig.png' rel='lightbox[gallery513046808546683754]' onclick='if (!window.lightboxLoaded) return false'><img src='https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/untitled1.png' class='galleryImage' _width='225' _height='225' style='position:absolute;border:0;width:100%;top:-16.67%;left:0%' /></a></div></div></div></div><span style='display: block; clear: both; height: 0px; overflow: hidden;'></span></div> 				<div style="height: 20px; overflow: hidden;"></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><font size="3">As a therapist I&rsquo;m glad that our emotional and mental wellbeing is getting more and more attention. Working with a therapist to address issues being experienced allows a fuller life to be lived.&nbsp;<br /><br /><strong>How counselling can help?</strong><br />Through creating a safe and trusting working relationship where anything and everything can be talked about, without judgement, the problems that have arisen in life can be worked through.<br /><br />Therapy can be used to deal with the impact of emotional and mental distress caused by current stressful circumstances or historical life experiences such as, <em><a href="http://www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/helping-you-with/a-z">anxiety</a></em>, <em>depression</em>, <em>financial debt</em>, <em>relationship problems</em>, <em>self-esteem difficulties</em>, <em>traumatic experiences</em> and <em>work related issues</em>.<br /><br /> Therapy is often life changing as the insight and growth gained becomes a means for making a change in different areas of your life, for instance:<br /></font><font size="3"> <ul><li>Career<br /></li><li>Finances<br /></li><li>Health<br /></li><li>Managing emotions better<br /></li><li>Relationships<br /></li></ul><br />If you are interested or know anyone who wants to learn more about how counselling can help please ask them to get in touch. I&rsquo;m happy to answer any questions.<br /><br />I&rsquo;m a </font><a href="http://www.bacpregister.org.uk/check_register/result_details.php?personid=1219038"><font size="3">BACP accredited</font></a><font size="3"> counsellor / psychotherapist. I work, face to face or online, on a short and long term basis depending on individual needs to help with mental and emotional difficulties. I currently have availability to see clients.<br /><br />Also, if you are worried about someone you know and are wondering how to have a conversation about it see this </font><a href="http://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/worried-about-someone-else"><font size="3">link</font></a><font size="3"> for guidance.</font><br /></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Depersonalised conversations about mental health]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/depersonalised-conversations-about-mental-health]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/depersonalised-conversations-about-mental-health#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Mon, 12 Sep 2016 16:22:06 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[Mental Health]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kwameopoku.com/blogs/depersonalised-conversations-about-mental-health</guid><description><![CDATA[As a therapist I&rsquo;m happy to see the momentum that is gathering around conversations about mental health, particularly in the African and Caribbean communities, and also in wider society. As much as the stigma attached to mental health is being slowly eroded I feel the conversations are very 2 dimensional. Maybe our use of the words mental health is too encompassing and meshed to enable clear understanding to be had about cause and effect.Mental health is used to describe enhancing one&rsqu [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2 class="wsite-content-title" style="text-align:justify;"><font size="3">As a therapist I&rsquo;m happy to see the momentum that is gathering around conversations about mental health, particularly in the </font><a href="http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Blackhealth/Pages/Mentalhealth.aspx"><font size="3">African and Caribbean communities</font></a><font size="3"><font size="3">, and also in wider society. As much as the stigma attached to mental health is being slowly eroded I feel the conversations are very 2 dimensional. Maybe our use of the words <em>mental health</em> is too encompassing and meshed to enable clear understanding to be had about cause and effect.<br /><br />Mental health is used to describe enhancing one&rsquo;s wellbeing; mental health is used to describe someone being mentally unwell like someone experiencing being run down, having a cold or flu; mental health is used to describe the capacity of cope with everyday stresses; mental health is used to describe someone experiencing mental illness known as psychosis which is at the extreme end of the continuum and requires medical intervention. Mental health is used to describe&nbsp;symptoms without asking what the cause is.</font></font></h2>  <div>  <!--BLOG_SUMMARY_END--></div>  <h2 class="wsite-content-title"><font size="3">Currently there&rsquo;s a sense that we are stuck in a situation where in conversations &ndash; medically oriented professionals and lay people like, the label is seen as the cause. In truth, depression, anxiety, stress, border personality disorder etc as descriptors is just that. They don&rsquo;t actually tell you anything about the person&rsquo;s experience and life story. Of course, if that&rsquo;s the diagnosis then medically it indicates a certain treatment protocol will treat and cure the condition as though psychological injuries are akin to cancer cells to be eradicated and sent into remission. That may be the unconscious wish of many, which is to have their pain from past experiences permanently erased. The medical equivalent would be the removal of some brain tissue to stop the physical capacity to remember. </font><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychologically-minded/201311/psychodynamic-therapy-101"><font size="3">Therapy</font></a><font size="3"> or treatment can&rsquo;t ever cure in the traditional sense that we think of and that&rsquo;s something I feel needs to be more explicitly stated. Instead all work to do with mental health in its various forms involve providing the space to be heard and helping people to heal, live with, think different, change, accept or grow amongst other things. Granted this is more related to historical experiences leading to present day vulnerabilities.&nbsp; This is where I feel the conversations can get a bit muddled. Mental health being discussed relative to present day situational difficulties versus unresolved/unprocessed historical life experiences. Then there&rsquo;s the issue of how our past and present interact to cause health issues.&nbsp; This is where people get wrapped up in the labels and depersonalise their lived experienced.<br /><br />When it comes down to it, for me, the critical issue is, what&rsquo;s the person&rsquo;s story, who are they beyond the label? If the person has been &ldquo;</font><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychologically-minded/201310/doublethink-diagnosis-20"><font size="3">diagnosed</font></a><font size="3">&rdquo; with depression, anxiety, as borderline etc, what have they been through that has left them feeling depressed or lead them to bottle up their feelings? If someone is suffering from excessive anxiety what is triggering the fear, threat, or lack of safety? No one wakes up one day mentally unwell unless they have been through something like a single event </font><a href="http://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/emotional-and-psychological-trauma.htm"><font size="3">trauma</font></a><font size="2"><font size="3"> i.e. natural disaster, a violent physical or sexual&nbsp;attack or&nbsp;an accident. &nbsp;For the of majority people becoming mental unwell happens slowly overtime due to a combination of factors. That is where the complexity of the work lies and a reason why pharmacological treatment which is necessary for some people will be never be the cure by itself despite the ideological, political and economic motivations for pursuing this course of action. I remember&nbsp;seeing <a href="https://www.kwameopoku.com/uploads/1/1/4/4/11441136/050105developmentaltraumadisorder.pdf" target="_blank">Dr. Bessel van&nbsp;der Kolk&nbsp;</a>&nbsp;in a lecture say something like the reason why we&nbsp;keep looking&nbsp;for biological solutions is because it means we&nbsp;avoid looking at the root causes of trauma&nbsp;in wider society. I couldn't agree more.<br /><br />To reiterate, in the main, becoming mentally unwell doesn&rsquo;t happen spontaneously or in vacuum. It tends to be an accumulative process thus the work needs to mirror that by addressing the multi layered factors. This may not be what people what to hear or are conditioned not to consider but this is part of the uncomfortable truth that needs to be part of the work to facilitate the healing, change and growth.</font></font></h2>]]></content:encoded></item></channel></rss>